Putting It Out There
I’ve been slowly telling people what I’m doing. Some people might not feel they want to share this kind of thing but I have a pathological need to share everything I’m going through and this existed long before social media. If I don’t tell people generally what’s going on then I feel like I’m hiding something and that makes me itchy. I’m also not at all ashamed of what I’m doing, it’s a tough journey and one I’m proud of.
So far everyone I’ve told has been really supportive or at least they got to a supportive place once they truly understood it. I told one of my friends, we haven’t been close in a while but I felt like I wanted to confide in her, this is kind of how it went:
Me: I’m getting bariatric surgery, mostly because if my back pain and I want to have my life back.
Her: Have you gone for any allergy testing?
Me: No but that’s not out of the question in the future but I feel that this surgery is really going to help my health in so many ways in the future, including my back.
Her: Because it could be some food you are eating that is causing back pain.
Me: Ok well I’ve really researched this and feel that it could help my back and this is what I’m doing.
Her: I just talked to my friend who had the surgery and she said it’s really hard and if you don’t follow up with lifestyle changes you’ll just gain the weight back.
Me: I’ve been working on this for months, I know all the positives and negatives of it. I’ve already changed how I’m eating a lot and really focusing on making this huge change.
Her: Oh well, just thought you should know.
Me: Thanks for the support.
Is it too much to ask for simple support? Once I told her that I was scared my cat (who had already lost a leg to cancer had cancer in his eyelid) and she insisted she was certain it wasn’t that and that I should just ignore it. Turns out it was cancer and we had to put him down a week later.
Anyway, I just had to vent. I’m done now. Luckily everyone else has been really supportive.