They are all intrinsincly the same. They all in the end work or don’t work for most of the same reasons. It’s about communication, understanding where the other person is coming from and never taking the easy way out. Being with someone, anyone, for years on end gets harder as the years go on.
I believe, that humans aren’t meant to be monogomous. I believe that it isn’t in our nature to stay with one person until the day we die. That is why it’s such hard work at times because we have to push past our natural response to give up. It doesn’t mean you can’t love one person forever, it just means that as the years go by you add on more and more baggage.
The same happens with friendships. The longer you are friends the more baggage is added on and the harder it is to enjoy each other’s company. Yeah, it’s easy to just move on and find a new friend without all the issues but in time, problems will arise. It’s all about talking and dealing with things, if Manly Man and I didn’t work through stuff when it came along we wouldn’t be able to stand each other anymore.
Take my co-worker at work who I’ve had to work with for 6 years now. She is like 30 years older than me and does things very differently than me. We are both stubborn and we never discuss the issues, we just ignore them. So now our entirely relationship is passive aggressive and fake. I never really tell her when I think she’s being a stubborn knob and she never speaks up to tell me I’m being an annoying twat.
Relationships of all kinds are never all fun and easy, no matter how good they are to start off. It’s important to remember that there was a reason you liked this person’s company before. Still, if you close yourself off you will never really connect to anyone. If you can’t be who you really are with the people in your life what is the fucking point?