There is a topic I’ve wanted to talk about for a while but just haven’t gotten around to it. Luckily Avitable wrote about the same thing recently so I decided I’d try to put my opinion about this into words.
First I need to explain that I do not think the act of pedophilia is ok. I think any kind of abuse against children is inexcusable and should warrant a person to be locked up for the rest of their life. I don’t care what happened to you as a child or how mentally ill you are, it’s never ever ok.
I do want to emphasize that I believe we can’t condemn someone for their thoughts or their urges. I imagine there are quite a few people with pedophile thoughts who never act on them. As humans we sometimes have thoughts that if we acted on them we might get arrested or killed.
I was listening to a Savage Love Podcast once and a guy called in to say he had pedophile thoughts and wanted to get help but was worried he’d be arrested if he stepped forward. This is my problem with this, we make it basically impossible for anyone to get help for anything but we speak about wanting to stop horrible things from ever happening again.
It’s like the school shootings for me. We don’t want to help children when they are being bullied or have compassion for those who feel left out but we sure want answers for when the shit blows up in our faces. We don’t want to even consider going to the root of the problem, we just want to complain after-the-fact.
I honestly don’t believe this will ever change because this topic is not something I think we as a society can ever stop and try to understand it. It’s something we don’t want to understand or even hear about, we want to pretend like it’s something monster that doesn’t really exist.
But it does exist and it won’t go away just because we will it to, just because we “won’t stand for it.”