The Gift of Not Giving
I’m going to lay it out on the line here: Manly Man and I haven’t done gift giving in like 3 years now. I think when we were planning for our wedding we decided it didn’t make any sense, our wedding and honeymoon in Ireland was all the gifts we needed that year. After the honeymoon Manly Man got laid off and doing gifts just didn’t make any sense, why would we celebrate anything by spending money when we had so little?
Granted, we’re still in bad financial straights, they get worse every month but despite that I think we just came to realize the whole expectations of gift giving loses the whole point. We like to give gifts when we come across something the other person would like or if one of us just needs a pick-me-up.
One thing I can say about us is that we’ve always preferred giving gifts from the heart instead of just buying stuff the other person could just buy themselves. We are always doing love notes and having silly little dates.
I’d honestly recommend every couple, hell every family, take one year to not buy any gifts for holidays. You can do gifts whenever you want, you just can’t do it on holidays. Also, try going the more personal route and do things that really mean something. Go on a picnic, write a love letter or play a board game.
I think we all forget to really enjoy each other and with the way the world is lately we need that more than ever.