The Damn I Happen To Give
Everyone is talking about the bullying and the suicides and all the videos telling kids to hang in there, things will be ok. I read a post about how these videos are insulting and in the end, not enough. That maybe just telling kids to wait until the storm passes is making the situation worse.
His point is that we need to make things better right now and kids need to learn how to stand up for themselves. I couldn’t agree more that things need to change. I think school administrations need to take bullying more seriously, I think parents need to open their eyes and in the end I think it’s about fucking time bullying is taken seriously.
I’ve written about bullying many times and it’s something that is very close to my heart. Whenever I hear about kids being bullied to the point where they just want life to end my heart breaks because I’ve been there. I’ve been bullied to the point where I spent part of the school day in the bathroom crying and I’ve contemplated suicide.
I wish we could just give each one of these kids a good dose of confidence and a set of boxing gloves. I wish there was a way to just teach kids how to stand up for themselves and maybe you can but I know I was far too afraid to take a stand. I just wanted to be left alone. I’ve never been one to stand up to the crowd of kids taunting me, it’s just not in me.
I can say one thing though, these videos telling kids that eventually it will be ok, could have helped me. To know that I wasn’t the only one suffering and that it wouldn’t last forever would have helped me so much. I would have given anything to know back then that I wasn’t alone.
So maybe just telling kids it will get better is important in itself because no matter how much we fix the world around us, being a teenager will always suck and will always be hard. If we can make a few kids feel less alone then that’s a win in my book.