Spoiled Opportunities

I’ve been told so many time in my life (or just implied, I love implications) that I’m spoiled. Funny thing is for the first 10 years of my life I was viewed as quite the opposite from just about all the kids I knew. At that time I was living in a very poor city and going to a very rich private school. Back then I was one of the poor kids from the inner city.

Ever since we moved out of there I’ve been viewed as spoiled. Suddenly I was the kid with the biggest house of all my friends. Every birthday from a certain age I always got electronics from my dad and that is still how my dad chooses to express his love.

I went off to college and since everyone knew that college was paid for by my parents and that I had no student loans I was obviously spoiled. One friend who I know worked her ass off going to school and working just to pay her way through school resented me for it and still does.

What irritates me about this is I know I’m resented for this because if they had the opportunity to have their parents pay for anything in their life they would take it in a heartbeat.

Yes, they’d deny it to the high heavens. They’d say they don’t agree with this and that people should not be helped by their parents. I too agree that people should not be babied by their parents and go through life not knowing how to take care of themselves.

I have worked very hard since I graduated college to make my way in the real world. I know I’m lucky to get help from my parents when I need it and I never expect anything. If it weren’t for them I would never be where I am in photography and I’d stand to lose just about everything financially.

With all their help I hope that I can get to a place in my life (sooner rather than later) where I can dig myself out of a ditch. I know I won’t have them forever. I also plan I can make it up to them someday, I don’t know how but I can only hope I get the opportunity.

My point is, when we have an opportunity, we take it. That’s how you make it in this world, grabbing all the opportunities you can until there is none left.


  1. Amanda

    September 24, 2010 at 10:22 am

    I think if you’re lucky enough to have the opportunity to receive help, there’s nothing wrong with taking it. Like how Rory got the job at the newspaper because of Logan’s dad. Gilmore Girls was full of life lessons!

  2. metalmom

    September 30, 2010 at 7:40 pm

    My daughter was ‘that’ kid. In C-town, I can’t remember the number of times that she couldn’t do this or that due to the lack of money.We were po. Then we moved to S-town and even though we weren’t making more money, my older two boys were adults and no longer being supported by us. I don’t understand how anyone can fault a person for grabbing a gold ring when it comes their way. Everyone knows they’d do it too, if the shoe was on the other foot.

  3. Avitable

    September 30, 2010 at 11:22 pm

    I love the new header!

    I don’t think you’re spoiled in the slightest. You’d be living on easy street if you were.

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