I’ve been told so many time in my life (or just implied, I love implications) that I’m spoiled. Funny thing is for the first 10 years of my life I was viewed as quite the opposite from just about all the kids I knew. At that time I was living in a very poor city and going to a very rich private school. Back then I was one of the poor kids from the inner city.
Ever since we moved out of there I’ve been viewed as spoiled. Suddenly I was the kid with the biggest house of all my friends. Every birthday from a certain age I always got electronics from my dad and that is still how my dad chooses to express his love.
I went off to college and since everyone knew that college was paid for by my parents and that I had no student loans I was obviously spoiled. One friend who I know worked her ass off going to school and working just to pay her way through school resented me for it and still does.
What irritates me about this is I know I’m resented for this because if they had the opportunity to have their parents pay for anything in their life they would take it in a heartbeat.
Yes, they’d deny it to the high heavens. They’d say they don’t agree with this and that people should not be helped by their parents. I too agree that people should not be babied by their parents and go through life not knowing how to take care of themselves.
I have worked very hard since I graduated college to make my way in the real world. I know I’m lucky to get help from my parents when I need it and I never expect anything. If it weren’t for them I would never be where I am in photography and I’d stand to lose just about everything financially.
With all their help I hope that I can get to a place in my life (sooner rather than later) where I can dig myself out of a ditch. I know I won’t have them forever. I also plan I can make it up to them someday, I don’t know how but I can only hope I get the opportunity.
My point is, when we have an opportunity, we take it. That’s how you make it in this world, grabbing all the opportunities you can until there is none left.