Be Where You Want To Be
I hear all the time people talking about so-and-so who left their spouse or dumped their significant other. They talk about how they abandoned them and how selfish they are. This is something I just donâ€™t understand. Isnâ€™t this really a good thing? If you donâ€™t want to be here, donâ€™t be here. Who wants someone at their party who obviously wants to be anywhere else but here?
I got to thinking about this hearing about some peopleâ€™s thoughts on the book Eat Pray Love and how selfish this woman was leaving a perfectly good marriage to run around the world. Wait. Following your own dreams is selfish? Iâ€™ve been told several times how selfish I am because when it comes down to it I do think of myself first. I donâ€™t do this over other people well-being or walk all over people, I just know that I need to consider myself first because no one else is going to.
You see, if my husband was really feeling like I wasnâ€™t the person he really wanted to be with or if he really wanted to be somewhere else, then I certainly wouldnâ€™t want him staying around out of obligation. We only get this one life and if we get the opportunity we should follow as many of our dreams as we can. I know if I felt like I needed to go to Europe for a year alone he would understand, he would be sad, but he would know that this was something I needed to do.
So, donâ€™t stay with someone just because you feel you have to or that you owe them. Donâ€™t keep a friendship going with someone who you donâ€™t enjoy their company. Life is too short to spend time with anyone who doesnâ€™t truly make your life better just by being in it.