It is What it is
While I realize that I have high standards and I think that is ok I also realize that I also have unrealistic expectations and they aren’t hurting anyone other than myself. I need to stop putting everything that happens to me in a catagory of good and bad and stop defining the world around me.
Sometimes when I feel I need more zen I take a stroll over to Zen Habits and today I found this post. Wow, this really opened my eyes.
When you stop judging things as good or bad, you are no longer burdened by the emotions of this judgment, and can live lighter, freer.
I had a moment the other night where something didn’t go as I had hoped, in fact it was basically a big fat FAIL. I got really upset. Really upset. It was something so small, so not worth letting it ruin an entire evening for me. I had expections and I was left disappointed and angry.
So many times in my life I’ve had expections and because of these I end up missing out on a great moment. I didn’t enjoy my senior prom because I had my expectations so high that it was pretty much impossible to reach them. On the day of my wedding I spent 10 minutes crying because the only expectation I had was to have my wedding outside and last minute they wouldn’t let us. I’m still sad about that.
I’ve decided, basically while writing this, that I’m going to start focusing on everything around me as not good or bad but just being what it is. I’m going to take a moment, when I get upset or disappointed, and realize it is what it is.
It’s as simple as that.