When Your Parents Don’t Know Better


rman9682l I worry about posting things about family members here because I never know if they read it but then again if they do they never ever say a word about it. So I’m going to assume they don’t. I like keeping this blog as much out of my personal life as possible, it makes it easier to be myself.

This weekend, in particular, I realized how unaware of their surroundings my parents are. If you know me you are well aware that I’m not one for rules or traditions or for people telling me how I should be. I hate when people say to me “but you are supposed to do it this way” because you know, that’s what society tells us.

But I realized my parents are in their own world and I can’t figure out if they’ve always been this way and I’ve never noticed or if it’s an age thing. I’ve always known my mother is messy. She’s not cluttered but she’s very messy. Her counter tops are always in need of a wiping down. Her floors rarely look like they’ve been cleaned, at all. There is dust all over the house. The bathroom has absolutely no order and I’m an order freak.

Also, at a dinner we went to at my parents house I was a little disturbed by several things. She brought a silverware carrier out that had something on it, like chocolate or something but I wiped it off for her. She didn’t even think to bring down real silverware forks for lobster, that plastic ones would be enough?? The plastic plates she had were not sufficient for the lobster we were having. They are having their pool dug out so we sat next to a huge hole in the ground and the dust kept getting into our food.

Then there was the food. She served salt less butter with the lobster, who does that?? She bought the lobsters at Market Basket, which is like the ghetto supermarket and shocking, some of the lobsters were not well. She insists on putting sugar in the raspberries for the ice cream even though I keep telling her that the ice cream has sugar in it. Then of course my dad, who had his shirt off when nobody else did, which I just think is weird.

Maybe it’s just how I see them, I’m sure other people are embarrassed by their parents. I just feel like I need to explain the world to them and I don’t know how they don’t understand things like this. Or maybe I’m just going to an OCD place and they don’t quite fit into my new little ordered world.

Either way, they are starting to drive me crazy.


  1. Amanda

    July 6, 2010 at 11:08 am

    I think we’re all embarrassed by the things our parents do. My dad is the worst eater I’ve ever seen- He salts everything with a LOT of salt. And I mean everything (salad, pizza, etc). He also does not close his mouth at all when he chews and makes the most horrible noises.

    1. Robin

      July 6, 2010 at 11:13 am

      @Amanda: Sounds like our dads would be good friends.

  2. Alissa

    July 6, 2010 at 11:47 am

    I’m okay with my parents. But, my hubby’s parents…he can’t stand them. They have this posted in their house with John Wayne infront of an American Flag that says, “Now why the hell do I need to press 1 for English?” and they are very conservative and very backwoods. Somehow hubby ended up the complete opposite of this thankfully. They are loud and they click their fingers at waitresses and tip only 10% even if the service was exemplary. Embarrassing.

  3. Shelli

    July 6, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    Welcome to normal. I’m not sure how my mom managed to make it to her almost 66 years. And graduate from a very respected college with a pretty impressive degree. Sometimes I want to pull my hair out when she talks.

    1. Robin

      July 13, 2010 at 9:33 am

      @Shelli: It’s nice to be in Normal for once.

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