The Husband Project

After reading this post I decided to take on this challenge. I mean, I obviously could work on being a better wife and really, that’s all that I care about in this world. Every single moment of my day I think “gee, how could I possibly help my husband more!"

So over the next few weeks I am going to turn my life around and be the dream wife that Manly Man always wanted. I mentioned what I was going to do on IM and here is the conversation.

Me: i’m going to start praying for you all the time and cooking for you and telling you how amazing you are… how can i pray for you today?

Him: oh please don’t…

Me: but i want to pray for you

Him: well that couldn’t hurt…but the cooking…

Me: come on, i want to please you

Him: stop hogging the bed

Me: yeah…that’s going to be a tough one…

Stay tuned for next week…I have a lot of work to do…


  1. Amanda

    June 11, 2010 at 8:33 am

    Clearly if you really loved him you’d cook for him despite his protests, and you’d figure out how to stop hogging the bed.

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 8:43 am

      @Amanda: I’m going to get on this, tomorrow, I swear. Assuming I have nothing else better to do.

  2. jess; [the bottle chronicles]

    June 11, 2010 at 8:36 am


    This is hilarious! I’m glad you didn’t resist ;0)

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 8:43 am

      @jess; [the bottle chronicles]: Well what else is a blog for than for putting your thoughts out there for everyone to read?

  3. Liz Hill

    June 11, 2010 at 9:30 am

    I looked at the original post and the other dripping with sarcasm and some of the comments.

    The truth is…..finding some good out of the original wouldn’t hurt anyone’s marriage. While the praying and the fasting are just not gonna happen cause I’m not a religion gal I do think that I’d have fewer clients if the ‘mommies’ remembered they are wives first and that the relationship with their Husband is a key to a good life for their children.

    And holy cow who marries someone and doesn’t know their favorite meal or drink???

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 9:34 am

      @Liz Hill: Oh I couldn’t agree more, I think one of the biggest problems with marriages is just forgetting about your relationship and letting it fall by the wayside. I think it happens even more so when you have children and they become your entire life and you forget you have a spouse. I just think the way the woman went about this concept is very scary but then if there is one problem i don’t have in my life it’s my relationship with my husband.

  4. Alissa

    June 11, 2010 at 9:42 am

    That conversation. Hilarious. Laughing out loud at work.

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 9:53 am

      @Alissa: We should start touring the country.

  5. Miss Britt

    June 11, 2010 at 9:49 am

    The problem, I think, is the idea that we are responsible for someone else’s happiness. Because, just, no. That’s setting everyone up for failure. And that’s COMPLETELY different than making your relationship a priority or doing nice things for each other regularly, etc. ARGH. (I know you’re not saying this, but the fact that women are telling each other this just makes me so damn mad.)

    You two, however, are hilarious. 🙂

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 9:56 am

      @Miss Britt: I totally agree. I feel like marriages these days are either all the way one end where they have forgotten about each other or on the other end one person is responsible for the other person.

  6. bluepaintred

    June 11, 2010 at 9:49 am

    oh the bed thing is easy! you just have to retrain yourself to stay on your side, I suggest simply placing a row of spikes down the center of the bed, within a few nights you will either bleed to death or have stopped hogging the bed!

    Hope this helped!

    (don’t forget to iron his favorite shirt!)

  7. Maureen

    June 11, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    You find the most interesting things on the internet 🙂

    I’m a big fan of the line from Adaptation – “You are what you love, not what loves you”. I think that people should find their happiness in fully living their lives in a way that truly makes them feel whole and happy.

    And, while cliche and certainly not assuming that this will be the ‘discovery’ point for everyone as it was for me, once I had children I realized that I feel such a sense of content in myself when I’m touching the lives of others. I’ve found myself by looking outside of my own skin to see how I’m a part of the world around me. This ‘interacting with others & impacting the world around me’ extends not only to my children, my husband, my family, but to my community as well (both locally & globally).

    That said… Many of these ‘make your marriage happy’ challenges seem kind of superficial to me. They seem more about ‘making sacrifices to get my husband to notice me and thank me’ rather than true acts of unselfish joy & love. They are more about appearing to be a better wife for someone rather than about living your own life in a way that makes you feel that you are spending your days in a way that you choose.

    They also kind of remind me of the blog I once read where a woman went on about what makes her marriage work. She had ‘mutual respect’, ‘shared responsibility’, ‘open honest communication’, ‘shared sense of humor and perspective’, etc. But, then she added that what made her marriage work was that it was centered around their faith in God.

    I never replied, but wanted to say that the ‘faith in God’ was actually a red herring, a ‘magic feather’ (Dumbo reference, for those who haven’t seen Dumbo in a long time). The parts that actually made it work were the respect, the joy in consensually sharing their lives with each other. That’s what makes a marriage work. The ‘faith in God’ is just a hobby that they share with each other.

    Take that away, but keep the rest of it and you’ve still got a good marriage. Keep the faith without the other things & no one will be happy in that marriage, no matter how much you pray.

    So, if these ‘challenge exercises’ help some *couples* to find a renewed joy in *sharing their lives with each other*, then hooray for magic feathers! Reflecting on how we’re living our lives in relation to others in the world, especially the ‘others’ who we value the most in our own lives, is an excellent way to live mindfully and to make the most of your life.

    But, if the challenges are approached as sacrifices that are made in hope of return on the investment, especially if the other factors of a good marriage aren’t there, then the challenges are just martyr-like wastes of the short time that we all have here in life.

    1. Robin

      June 11, 2010 at 1:36 pm

      @Maureen, Leave it to you to say it even better than me.

  8. subWOW

    June 11, 2010 at 3:08 pm

    LOL! I love that card in the beginning & I love this post.

  9. Susie @newdaynewlesson

    June 12, 2010 at 3:45 pm

    Just by separate twin beds. Duh!

    1. Robin

      June 14, 2010 at 7:52 am

      @Susie @newdaynewlesson: don’t think that hasn’t occurred to us.

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