Truth vs. Lies
It is better to be told a hurtful truth than to be told a comforting lie. In the end, the truth will make its way out and will hurt much more than it ever had to. ~Anonymous
The truth hurts really bad. I know, Iâ€™ve had many hurtful truths said to me over the years. It never gets easier. Someone sits you down or writes you an email and you can feel it in your stomach. Itâ€™s like the air is sucked out of you and all you can feel is the reality that is laid out before you. Itâ€™s like everything else in the world goes black and these words are in neon.
Still, I find the truth, even when itâ€™s almost too painful to hear, so much better than a lie. No matter how much I am hurt by how you really feel what hurts that much more is to realize that Iâ€™m not worth taking the time to be honest. Being the person who has to hand over the truth is never easy but itâ€™s what the person deserves. I think we all know that in telling the truth you take the chance in the person not wanting to hear it and resenting you for it, that is not an easy situation to put yourself in.
I crave truth, I never turn any of it away no matter how false or hurtful I think it is. I always take it, think about it and try to process it. I try not to dwell on it but sometimes thatâ€™s just inevitableâ€¦or maybe thatâ€™s just part of my DNA. I donâ€™t think enough people are honest. Iâ€™m not nearly as honest as I would like to be but thatâ€™s mostly because I donâ€™t think most people have any interest in the truth. Most of the time when I try to be honest it ends up in a fight.
I think what has hurt me the most is finding out the truth has been kept from me for a long period of time and then when it finally leaks out I feel like I was run over by a truck. Like when someone says â€œwe all thinkâ€ makes you realize that apparently youâ€™ve been discussing what you believe to be a truth about me with others and are now letting me in on this. Itâ€™s â€œtruthsâ€ like that I canâ€™t help but wonder if they are not even real but just put out there to sting.
I also want to point out that I believe sometimes a white lie is what is best for the situation. I just believe as a society too many of us are afraid of the truth and that it can be a destructive route. For me, itâ€™s important to be able to see the good and bad of both ourselves and the world around us or else we are missing out on so much.
How much do you avoid the truth? If someone sat you down right now and told you how they really felt could you handle it without getting defensive? What kind of life do we have without facing the truth?