Hugging It Out

Gwen posted this on her tumblr yesterday:

I am not a touchy kind of person. I never have been and I never will be. That being said I do believe that sometimes, everyone needs a hug. I tend to put people in to groups of “people I think would give good hugs” and “people who I think would give shitty hugs”. ~Robert Downey Jr.

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I’m a big believer in hugs, those that I love I hug a lot. I hug my husband several times a day most of the time. I hug my furkids even though honestly most cats, particularly mine, are not the hugging kind. The moment I met Gwen the first thing I did was hug her.

I think it says a lot about a person whether they are a good hugger or not. I’m totally turned off by people who do more of a 1/2 hug or there is nothing in the hug. If you are going to hug, give a real one, that’s what I believe.

Looking back, some of the people I’ve been unsure about have always been horrible huggers or maybe they are just bad huggers with me but I kind of doubt it. Some of the most intense moments in movies, in my opinion, have not been kisses but hugs. There is a scene in Slumdog Millionaire where the boy and the girl he has been searching for finally get to hug (not kiss) and it gave me chills.

There were a few things that went into consideration when I met Manly Man. First he had to be cute (check). Second he had to be funny (check). He also had to give great hugs and nobody hugs like he does. Nobody.

Oh and I must agree with Gwen, Downey looks like he’d be a great hugger. I just get a sense about huggers, you can weed out the good ones from the bad ones just by looking at them.

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  1. bluepaintred

    April 15, 2010 at 11:04 am

    i dont like hugs.

    well, not true. I love them from micah, from the boys, but even a half hug between my and my dad/stepmom/siblings makes me feel nasty uncomfortable. I dont like touching other people…

    so does this mean we have to break up now?

    1. Robin

      April 15, 2010 at 11:24 am

      @bluepaintred: yes, i will send you my breakup kit right away.

  2. Pauline

    April 15, 2010 at 11:17 am

    I like hugs but I HATE longer-than-normal hugs from creepy guys. They pretend their being nice, but they’re just coping a feel!

    From my husband=Sure
    Anyone else=No!

    1. Robin

      April 15, 2010 at 11:25 am

      @Pauline: longer than normal hugs, unless you are crying, is creepy. a proper hug is only a handful of seconds but it’s real.

  3. Jennifer Lynn

    April 15, 2010 at 1:08 pm

    I like hugs. I am a hugger. I am proud to be one. However, I have mastered the 2 handed handshake for people that I deem nonhugmaterial;)…keeps them from the sneak attack lean-in!

  4. Grant

    April 15, 2010 at 1:29 pm

    I just wanted to remind you that my birthday is in 30 days.

    1. Robin

      April 16, 2010 at 7:47 am

      @Grant: will you be getting your senior citizen discount yet?

  5. Alissa

    April 15, 2010 at 2:39 pm

    I’m not a hugger. My family never was and neither am I. I mean, I do hug my really good friends, but otherwise – stay out of my personal space.

    1. Robin

      April 16, 2010 at 7:46 am

      @Alissa: Noted, will keep my distance.

  6. jen

    April 16, 2010 at 5:30 am

    depends who is doing the hugging and then I do love a good bear hug after a bad day 🙂

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