You have no idea how badly reading things like this make me want to fight. Sometimes I think I should have gone in to law because this kind of unjust bullshit makes me want to scream. I can’t help thinking that there should be someone to stop this. That I should be able to do something to help.
*sigh*
If nothing else, I’ll be sending all my positive thoughts and you know that you’re welcome to call and vent whenever.
http://lifeisnotamovie.net Robin
@Gwen, I appreciate that. It’s good to just know that others get where we are coming from because often we feel like we’re floating in this sea of shit alone. You’re awesome for caring so much.
http://WebsiteURL Maureen
That teacher could be a great ally if Erik does start asserting his rights as a willing parent in Sophie’s life.
No, it’s not your fight, that’s true, but it is your husband’s fight (and burden and sadness) -and- you love him. So, you need to stand beside him, confidently, letting him know that you love him and believe him to be doing what’s right for him, for his daughter.
Society (and, in Erik’s case, his ex) beats men down, tells them that they are not needed (or even detrimental) in the lives of their children. It tells men that they are expected to back away & leave. It says that they are bad for doing so, but that there’s nothing they can do about it because that’s just the way men are.
Society sucks.
Because, if they decide, instead, to stand up and fight (why do they have to fight? Why does it have to be a struggle at all?) for their child’s right to a relationship with them, then they are told that they are taking a child away from it’s mother (or that they don’t respect mother, etc.).
It is possible, though, for him to do this with as little ‘fighting’ as needed. He can work through the courts, civilly, compromising but not giving up.
As for you getting to meet her & spend time with her, that should come naturally when Erik gets to spend more time with her. Gemma is insane to think that she’s the only parent who gets to move on, responsibly, in her life.
http://www.kill-the-body.blogspot.com Gwen
You know I love you guys. And seriously, if there’s ever anything I can do, I’ll be there.
