Comments on: The Childfree Clan http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:32:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ed http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20412 ed Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:42:35 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20412 kids are cool, i don't think they are for me though. rock on robin! kids are cool, i don’t think they are for me though. rock on robin!

]]> By: Maureen http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20411 Maureen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:47:22 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20411 Right - that's why I wanted to clear that feeling (that *I* felt in response to the post) up from the 'I have kids & I like it' end of things. I agree completely - everyone's got to take the path that's right for themselves. But, I hope that it can be done without saying that the other path is just awful & they can't imagine why anyone would take it. So, I just wanted to point out that, for me anyway, the path with kids is a happy place. Right – that’s why I wanted to clear that feeling (that *I* felt in response to the post) up from the ‘I have kids & I like it’ end of things. I agree completely – everyone’s got to take the path that’s right for themselves. But, I hope that it can be done without saying that the other path is just awful & they can’t imagine why anyone would take it. So, I just wanted to point out that, for me anyway, the path with kids is a happy place.

]]> By: jen http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20410 jen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:45:51 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20410 ya know? I don't know how, but I end up reading all of these blogs that are written by moms. I guess we can still relate even though I am not a mom. Maybe it is that we are women, or we are the same age, or like taking pictures, who knows? I am 37, and I do want to be a mom, but who knows if it will happen. I do feel secluded a bit since most of my friends have kids and I will admit, it does bug me sometimes. I say, to each their own. It's your life, and your choice, to have or not. =) ya know? I don’t know how, but I end up reading all of these blogs that are written by moms. I guess we can still relate even though I am not a mom. Maybe it is that we are women, or we are the same age, or like taking pictures, who knows? I am 37, and I do want to be a mom, but who knows if it will happen. I do feel secluded a bit since most of my friends have kids and I will admit, it does bug me sometimes. I say, to each their own. It’s your life, and your choice, to have or not. =)

]]> By: Robin http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20409 Robin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:42:42 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20409 @Maureen, this was exactly the opposite intent of this post though, not to be like "my decision is better, yours sucks" just that everyone feels left out at times and every path we take has to be the right one for us. @Maureen, this was exactly the opposite intent of this post though, not to be like “my decision is better, yours sucks” just that everyone feels left out at times and every path we take has to be the right one for us.

]]> By: Maureen http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20408 Maureen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:22:04 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20408 Oops- re: not replying to the right comment :-p I'm sure that's what she intended, too. I just wanted to clear up the feeling that was left behind in her post's wake (at least in how I felt it), that parenting is surely a miserable enterprise for all who do it. It most likely *is* for people who don't want to be doing it! But, for some of us, it's an amazing chance to experience & be a part of another human's growth and development from the very beginning. Oops- re: not replying to the right comment :-p

I’m sure that’s what she intended, too. I just wanted to clear up the feeling that was left behind in her post’s wake (at least in how I felt it), that parenting is surely a miserable enterprise for all who do it.

It most likely *is* for people who don’t want to be doing it! But, for some of us, it’s an amazing chance to experience & be a part of another human’s growth and development from the very beginning.

]]> By: Robin http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20405 Robin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:30:27 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20405 @Shelli, i can imagine that heh. sometimes my little furkids irritate me to no end. like when they wake me up at 3am because they are out of food or when the stink up the whole house after they use the litter box. i think loving anyone or any being is hard but worth it. @Shelli, i can imagine that heh. sometimes my little furkids irritate me to no end. like when they wake me up at 3am because they are out of food or when the stink up the whole house after they use the litter box. i think loving anyone or any being is hard but worth it.

]]> By: Robin http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20404 Robin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:27:29 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20404 @Maureen, first since you didn't respond to her I don't think she saw this, I am assuming at least. second i really don't think she meant it like that, i think she was just trying to explain how she came to her decision, which makes logical sense. not all lives that are lived are suited for having children. some people who continue to live exciting lives can happily bring their children along and then there are people who just can't seem to combine the two. then there is me who has no life and still doesn't want to be a mom. the whole point of this post was not to separate us but to come to an understanding that we've all made different choices and live different lives but we're all living the life (hopefully) that we were meant to live. @Maureen, first since you didn’t respond to her I don’t think she saw this, I am assuming at least. second i really don’t think she meant it like that, i think she was just trying to explain how she came to her decision, which makes logical sense. not all lives that are lived are suited for having children. some people who continue to live exciting lives can happily bring their children along and then there are people who just can’t seem to combine the two. then there is me who has no life and still doesn’t want to be a mom. the whole point of this post was not to separate us but to come to an understanding that we’ve all made different choices and live different lives but we’re all living the life (hopefully) that we were meant to live.

]]> By: Robin http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20403 Robin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:24:23 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20403 @Christine, I admire you for knowing what is right for you and living the life that you want. @Christine, I admire you for knowing what is right for you and living the life that you want.

]]> By: Shelli http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20401 Shelli Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:51:23 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20401 I was only an adult (legally) for 11 months before my daughter was born. I don't know what it's like to be a grown up without a child. (Plus, I mostly raised my brothers when I was still a child, so...anyway, 'nother story.) Once you have a child, you can't remember what it's like not to have one and, like you said, if you don't have one, you can't imagine having one. As to what you said about your pets being your kids, I totally relate to that. I don't love mine as much as my 2 legged kids, but damn near. I've grieved immensely over the loss of pets that have passed and when the two that I currently have go, I cannot imagine what my life will be like (they are the most favorite pets I've ever had, but I probably say that about all my pets LOL). They make me feel better when my 2 legged kids make me feel bad. :) I was only an adult (legally) for 11 months before my daughter was born. I don’t know what it’s like to be a grown up without a child. (Plus, I mostly raised my brothers when I was still a child, so…anyway, ‘nother story.) Once you have a child, you can’t remember what it’s like not to have one and, like you said, if you don’t have one, you can’t imagine having one. As to what you said about your pets being your kids, I totally relate to that. I don’t love mine as much as my 2 legged kids, but damn near. I’ve grieved immensely over the loss of pets that have passed and when the two that I currently have go, I cannot imagine what my life will be like (they are the most favorite pets I’ve ever had, but I probably say that about all my pets LOL). They make me feel better when my 2 legged kids make me feel bad. :)

]]> By: Maureen http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/comment-page-1/#comment-20400 Maureen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:07:47 +0000 http://www.lifeisnotamovie.net/2010/02/09/the-childfree-clan/#comment-20400 Not to argue with your decision at all. I think it's great that you know what you want to do with your life and that you're not dragging kids into it just because of any societal pressures. And, I'm sure you just skipped it because it didn't have anything to do with the point you were trying to make about your life, but, I wanted to make it clear that... We take our kids to Minor League games a few times a year, too & find that having them there makes it all the more fun for us. Sure, it was more work at the games when they were younger, but we are enjoying parenting together - that's one of the things that we like to do together as a couple - and we knew going into it that parenting would have a few challenges & take a lot of our time & attention. Much like your own hobbies involve some sacrifices of time, some compromises with each other & some challenges that leave you wondering why you do it some times, but the end result (the joy you find in doing the things that you find enjoyable) is worth it for you :-) I really am glad that you made the decision you did for yourself. I hope my kids take the time to decide what's right for them, too! I just wanted to address the implied (and maybe that's just me feeling it) stereotype that all parents must be miserable in parenting. Some of us really like it! Not to argue with your decision at all. I think it’s great that you know what you want to do with your life and that you’re not dragging kids into it just because of any societal pressures.

And, I’m sure you just skipped it because it didn’t have anything to do with the point you were trying to make about your life, but, I wanted to make it clear that…

We take our kids to Minor League games a few times a year, too & find that having them there makes it all the more fun for us. Sure, it was more work at the games when they were younger, but we are enjoying parenting together – that’s one of the things that we like to do together as a couple – and we knew going into it that parenting would have a few challenges & take a lot of our time & attention. Much like your own hobbies involve some sacrifices of time, some compromises with each other & some challenges that leave you wondering why you do it some times, but the end result (the joy you find in doing the things that you find enjoyable) is worth it for you :-)

I really am glad that you made the decision you did for yourself. I hope my kids take the time to decide what’s right for them, too! I just wanted to address the implied (and maybe that’s just me feeling it) stereotype that all parents must be miserable in parenting. Some of us really like it!

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