Take Care You

I think somehow together we’ve forgotten how to just be ourselves. I think this happened because we admired aspects of the other person so much that we tried to make it our own.

I think we have both been feeling lost and needing to fill parts of ourselves that have been empty for a long time. I think we’ve found pieces in each other that could fill those parts of us that were missing but it was only taking away from who we really were, individually.

I think we’ve lost the art of just being friends: spending time together, laughing and talking about our problems. We need time away to remember who we are without the other person.

How many fights have happened because of Twitter or a blog post on either end? How many fights have happened by email or im that got worse and worse because the tone was misconstrued?

I love you, obviously I do since I am closer to you than just about anyone on this planet. We’ve been through a lot, we are beyond friends and beyond family, we have our own category that nobody else can really understand.

I worry that the point we’ve come to is irreparable, we don’t know how to step away from each other, and it will take time not to reach out to the other one.

You don’t have to agree, I’m not asking for this. I’m not saying this to muddy the waters more. I’m speaking without anger or resentment or frustration, I’m just being as honest as I can be.

I’m going to let you be you and I’m going to be me. I wanted to say this without any backlash and without any discussion.

Take care of yourself, and I’m going to work really hard on trying to take care of myself.

If your here and now makes you unhappy you have 3 options: remove yourself from the situation, change it or accept it. ~Tolle


  1. Maureen

    July 1, 2009 at 10:57 am

    Lovely quote at the end 🙂

    Life is so very short. Something unique and beautiful lives in each person here living their own very short life. Each of our lives is enriched as we connect, respectfully, with the other lives around us. But, this is only true if those connections are respectful and understanding – both to the other person and to ourselves. Mistakes & misunderstandings are inevitable as we are each still learning how to best live our own lives, which are passing by as quickly as those of the people around us. The best we can do is to be gentle with each other and ourselves and to keep a good sense of humor about it all.

  2. Amanda

    July 1, 2009 at 11:52 am

    This was beautifully written

  3. Tug

    July 1, 2009 at 7:36 pm

    Very nice…I hope this works out for you both!

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