While I don’t believe that marriage should be easy I also don’t think it shouldn’t be so hard. After reading this post and reading the comments I got the very real feeling that women watch the show and see their own relationship. This just doesn’t sit right with me but maybe some women who are married with children can enlighten me.
I’m amazed that some people actually watch the show and think “poor Kate”. People actually watch the show and do not see that this woman berrates her husband. They don’t see that she tells him what to say and what to do? How is that?
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Do you really believe that the way she talks to her husband is “normal”? That it’s ok? Is it normal for a husband to cower away from his wife looking humiliated?
I’m not going to pretend I know the truth about Jon and Kate and quite honestly I don’t even think they really know the truth, which is why I think they need to stop the charade and get some help before the kids are the real fallout of this entire thing. I also don’t think a finger can be pointed at one person, I think it takes 2 people to fuck up their relationship.
But what I really want to know is do you really believe that marriage is supposed to be that hard? Should you be fighting for your marriage every single day? Should you suffer that much and be that miserable in the hopes of trying to make it work? If so, that really makes me sad.
I know marriage isn’t easy and I can only imagine it’s that much harder with children involved. I’ve always believed that making a marriage entirely about the children is a mistake. I believe that if you ignore your relationship long enough the cracks will start to show and that making a relationship work soley for the children is a distaster waiting to happen.
I also must add (and I know I could get stoned for this) I really do believe your marriage should come first, before the children. If you can’t work as a team how the hell are you going to take care of your children?
Am I naive? What are your thoughts?