The concept of polygamy has always confused me, not so much the act itself but the legality of it. Everytime someone mentions on Big Love how polygamy is illegal but this doesn’t make any sense to me. Let me explain it to you as I understand it through Big Love.
Bill is married to Barb. He then decided he also wanted to marry Nicki but legally couldn’t marry her so they had their own ceremony and live as they are husband and wife. Then Margene comes along, he marries her in a ceremony but there are no documents since it’s not legal. They live in 3 separate houses right next to each other and have lots of babies.
The police find out that there is polgamy going on in this family and arrests bill, with what proof? There is no marriage license for Nicki and Margene. Obviously the children are his and he pays for all 3 households but in a legal respect, there is no marriage.
Say that Manly Man and I decided we wanted Gwen to move in with us and be our girlfriend. We’d do dinners together, go on vacations together, have cats together and maybe a little hanky panky from time to time. Could we be arrested for that?
What if we decided to have a ceremony in our backyard and Kevin was the officient? If we didn’t get a marriage certificate how can what we are doing be illegal? At what point is a multiple relationship crossing the line to being illegal?
I’m not saying I condone it. While I think whatever adults want to do with each other is up to them as long as everyone is completely willing I do think it might be a little confusing for children. Then again, if it’s a really strong bond between everyone it could make for a great family situation. I mean, some people think two men being a father is confusing for children but let’s be honest, all children are confused no matter what their situation is.
I looked this up a little before I went to bed and couldn’t find much at the time. I did find an article on pro-poligamy.org about how it’s not right that someone is arrested for having 3 wives when Hugh Heffner openly has several girlfriends under the same roof.
What are your thoughts?
[tags]big love, polygamy[/tags]