I had another one of my usual arguments with my friend Brian the other day and this time it was about Only Children. Here is how it breaks down.
My Belief: To only have one child is not cruel or wrong or hurtful. I think it’s smart, to realize you only want one and maybe can only handle one. I believe that only children are no more or less issues than eldest, middle or youngest children.
His Belief: To only have one child is cruel. Only children are all selfish and spoiled and needy. This is because only children had all the attention and never had to compete for anything with their siblings. Only children do not know how to relate to others.
What are your thoughts? I think it’s all in how you are raised. If your parents spoil you and isolate you then you’ll probably end up a little screwed up, whether you have siblings or not. Before my brother, I had plenty of friends and I wouldn’t say I was given too much attention. I also wouldn’t say my brother and I ever fought for our parent’s attention.
Are kids that are spaced out from their siblings by many years in any way only children? I was without a sibling for 7 years and my mom’s sister was an only child for 12 years. They say the first few years of your life make the deepest impression so did not having a sibling in those younger years make an impact on me?
These days it’s a fortune to have children, what’s so wrong about having one kid? Do you think it really makes a difference either way?