good boy vs. bad boy

Because of Miss Britt’s post on “nice boys” it got me thinking about a few things. I thought about how it seems that people view the choice between nice boy and bad boy as this:

nice boy = safe
bad boy = passion

Obviously you can’t just put all men in 2 categories but for the sake of arguement, let’s say you can.

Nice Boy: Typically it’s assumed the nice boy is someone you can trust, maybe someone who is really easy to be with and someone whom you can depend on. At the same time the nice boy is probably sweet but not exactly sexy and is romantic but not passionate. The nice boy is your best friend.

Bad Boy: This guy would be basically the opposite of the nice boy. Someone difficult to trust and someone you are either uncomfortable around or are butting heads with all the time. Someone undependable. He can be a PITA but is unbelievably sexy and passionate, definitely not your best friend. Quite possibly he left one of your friends to be with you.

In my experience though the nice boys, they don’t want to hurt you but can end up hurting you as bad as any of the bad boys, actually worse in my experience because you never expect anything from the bad boy.

I tend to hear from girls that the bad boys are exciting, like a roller coaster. I mean, I like a roller coaster as much as the next person but I definitely don’t want to be on one everyday. After a week of the roller coaster everyday I’d probably be pretty annoyed with it and a little nauceous as well.

I think a lot of guys probably lean more towards one or the other but with a little bit of the other one mixed in. Personally I think I explained this better with my Mr. Big Theory because I always felt that Mr. Big (Sex and the City) was the prototype of exactly what a girl should not be looking for to settle down with.

My theory was that most of us date at least one Mr. Big but usually he’s more of a fling or a brief romance and while the romance itself is passionate it’s also frustrating and even painful sometimes.

I guess the way I see it we have 3 options: choose the daily passion, settle for the nice guy or maybe…wait for the best friend who makes you weak in the knees :heat:


  1. Amanda

    December 9, 2008 at 10:13 am

    I’ve always liked Nice Boys, the Bad ones make me nervous. I like to play it safe.

  2. Maureen

    December 9, 2008 at 11:29 am

    There’s that old saying, “Still waters run deep” that applies, in a kind of twisted way, I’ve found, to many ‘nice boys’. On the surface and even in their daily lives, they believe & live a polite, respectful existence… But, in their most private thoughts and fantasies, things are a little more exciting šŸ˜‰

    Kind of like the common male fantasy of the prim proper librarian type, who turns into a vixen, seething with desire, in bed.

  3. Tori

    December 10, 2008 at 5:31 pm

    I think I’ve proven… I’m a big fan of waiting… and waiting… and waiting…

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