Breaking Our Deal

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I might be married but I still have deal breakers, some however had to change because I fell in love with someone who unfortunately broke some of them. Quite honestly with the wrong person certain things just kill it but with the right person you’ll look past even the stuff that you never thought you could.

Here is a list of the things that are deal breakers, an idea I got from Avitable :avi:

  1. Relationship Status – not in a relationship and never been married. This only works when you don’t fall in love with a guy who is going through a divorce, you quickly learn that not only can you accept it but divorce can be a celebrated thing.
  2. Children – they shouldn’t have any children and be willing to not have children ever. Manly Man of course came with a child (while I don’t know her personally she seems like an amazing kid) but is open to the idea of not having children with me but also ok with maybe having them if I float over that side of the fence. It’s negotiable.
  3. Drugs – I’ve dated enough men who were pot heads and it’s just something I can’t deal with, it annoys the shit out of me. I don’t have any problem with people smoking pot, I just don’t want to live with it.
  4. BlanketI have a blanket, a security blanket. You don’t have to love it but you have to accept it. Sometimes Manly Man complains about it being bunched up between us at night but I tell him if I have to pick him or the blanket he’s the one moving out.
  5. Intelligence – I really do require intelligence, in fact I especially like it when they are smarte than me. I don’t know why, I just like a really smart boy.
  6. Age – I like guys young usually, often younger than me. Manly Man is 10 years older than me but he acts about 15 years younger than me and looks my age. If I had to date again, I probably couldn’t date anyone more than a few years older than me.
  7. Cats – I am a cat person. I can only be with someone who loves cats like I do and could never be with a dog person.
  8. Movies – They have to appreciate good movies, they don’t have to like every movie I like but have to appreciate quality.
  9. Communication – Has to be willing to talk, about anything. I’m a big talker/discusser, everything out in the open.
  10. Undies – N.O. tighty whities. Noway jose! Most guys I’ve started dating were wearing and I made them switch.

Geez, I’m kinda demanding huh? I’m sure I have more but these are the ones I thought of.

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  • http://azjade.com Jade

    I think it’s important to have boundaries and deal breakers in place in any relationship as it sets a precidence of what you will and won’t be able to deal with. I think it creates a layer of respect and well, without that you have nothing. It doesn’t work to bend over backwards or to compromise yourself for a partner because feelings of resentment will come back and bite you in the ass.

    Just my HO.

  • http://roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    @Jade – i don’t know if you mean to imply i bent over backwards in the relationship, i had to come a long way with him to get to where we are now but it was completely worth it. it’s astonishing sometimes what we find in the end just isn’t as important as love :erik:

  • http://amandainreallife.blogspot.com Amanda

    Really? I’ve never dated a guy who wore tighty whities. They’ve all been boxer-men. That’s weird.

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    @Amanda – it’s your generation, they were raised right i think. my generation, and definitely his, was raised either or.

  • http://www.avitable.com Avitable

    You have a security blanket? How long have you had it?

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    @Avitable – it’s a long story, i did a post on it a while back.

    http://www.roadlessunraveled.com/2007/the-blanket/

  • http:simplyblogged.wordpress.com leaca

    I have to hug a pillow when I sleep–it drives the DH nuts!

  • http://whall.org/blog whall

    What if they’re a dog AND a cat person?

  • http://www.toriblaine.wordpress.com Tori

    i have a blankie too… love it… it’s going to vegas with me.

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    @leaca – there is always something huh?
    @whall – probably wouldn’t work, unless they were ok with not having a dog as a pet.
    @Tori – i’m glad not to be the only one, my blanket is actually blanket #2 since the first one I had when I was little disintegrated.

  • http://andastheworldturns.blogspot.com Turnbaby

    I’ll never forget a discussion with my younger sister when I was in my early thirties about how I would NEVER date a divorced man with kids. She looked dead at me and said “you know at your age you are just gonna have to be less picky” LOLOL

    I ended up marrying a divorced man …with kids. That —which would have been a ‘deal breaker’ —had nothing to do with why we eventually divorced.