The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget. ~ Thomas Szasz
I don’t think there is anybody in this world that can say they haven’t made one or two big mistakes in their life. The kind of mistakes that throw your entire life into a tail spin and get out of control before you know it. The kind that twist everything you know so much it becomes unrecognizable.
Take me for example. I’ve made quite a few drastic mistakes in my life that I was never able to get out of unscarred. Back in the day when I was more of a forum fanatic instead of a blog whore I used to be a part of a stepmoms group. It was always tricky being in a group like that since A. I didn’t have any of my own children and most of them did B. I wasn’t “technically” a stepmom yet C. I had absolutely no relationship whatsoever with my stepdaughter. So I guess I never quite “fit in.”
Every situation is different. In that situation, I should have gone to friends IRL instead of online, that was my first mistake but they none of my IRL friends could understand my situation. But I went into anxiety mode and turned everything into a three-ring circus. Sadly it happens to me all the time. Some people get into a situation, they take a moment to think logically and go from there, I am not one of those people.
I think everyone deserves a second chance. I think people don’t deserved to be ostracized or attacked for their mistakes. I think rubbing someone’s mistake in their face anonymously is cowardly.
I also think sometimes one wrong word can forever change things and there is no going back. I never went back to the forums but I truly believe it was the best thing, because I ended up here instead.