Life’s Lessons

Howdy – My names Wayne, and I’m from the blog of whall.  At least, as far as you know I am, and that’s good enough for me, even if I wasn’t who you thought.

It is said that each of us, from the wealthiest statesman to the lowliest disadvantaged pauper, enters this little thing called Life with a few goals.  A list, if you will.  The list is imprinted upon our soul at birth just as the DNA carried in our cells is emblazoned with genetic blueprints.  Some blueprints unilaterally dictate certain aspects of our life, creating unstoppable roadblocks and force us in a specific direction, and the lesson presents itself with how we handle those situations.  Other blueprints simply expose themselves as suggestions or tendencies that provide us a choice, and in a similar way, the learning comes from making a choice.

The nice thing about blogging is that it’s very easy to say “it is said that [x]” because no matter what… there, it’s said.  The nice thing about guest blogging is that you can do so on SOMEONE ELSE’S BLOG so that the next time you want to write about it, you already have a reference!  Thanx, Robin!

Anyway, back to the lesson.

Have you ever heard that you have a special purpose in this life?  Every person plays a role?  God has a plan for you?  Everything happens for a reason?  There are no coincidences?  All this has happened before and will happen again?  You cannot escape your destiny?  You are my density?  I mean, my destiny?

Well, here’s the deal.  You have this list you carry around with you that represents what you’re supposed to learn during your time here on Earth.  And the truth is – you will learn it, or you’ll die, not trying.  Literally.

At first, you’ll notice these coincidences in your life.  “Opportunities,” we’ll call them.  The more you turn away from them, the stronger they’ll become.  Resistance is only met with a more stubborn world you live in.  The thing is – until you face the issue and learn your lesson, the lesson will get more and more painful to learn.

I’ll give you an example – *my* lesson.

It started off small – my then-5yr old son, Jaden, wanted a glass of Apple Juice.  I, on the other hand, really wanted to watch TV.  I figured – he’d had 3 other glasses of juice within the last 30 minutes – he could wait, right?  So I pushed him off and said “wait a minute, son, I’d like to finish this show first.”

Boy, was THAT a mistake.  I should have learned my lesson then.  Mother Nature did not like this turn of events and decided to take it up a few notches.

Not too long after this, my wife dislocates her patella.  Now, you must understand that we have two kids (13 and 5 at the time) and a number of dogs.  You must also understand that a severely dislocated patella doesn’t have a surgury that can fix it like a torn ACL, and the recovery period is about a year long, if you’re lucky.  During this time, I have added several roles to “dad” and “worker” – I also became mom, maid, cook, delivery man, personal shopper, chauffer, butler, coach, laundromat chief, dishwasher, gopher, remote control, personal trainer and boo-boo mender.

Needless to say, I learned a little something about servitude.  But evidently it wasn’t enough.

Two nights ago, my 14yr old daughter broke her foot marching.  If you haven’t been around a teenager with an injury, you don’t know servitude.  

That’s when the puzzle came together for me – the three incidents coalesced in my mind to form an idea big enough to hit me with the force of a mountain — I need to learn how to serve!  That’s my special purpose in life.  I’m being presented with these challenges in life so that I might learn how to selflessly serve my fellow man.  If I’m right, and I do it correctly, maybe I’ll stop having all these challenges come my way and I can take it easy.  Lemme tell ya, that sounds pretty good to me.

And I thought I’d licked this one.  I thought I could check it off my list.  I was actually whistling, thinking about it.

And then Robin called, needing this guest post…


  1. The blog of whall » Hey, look over there!

    October 13, 2008 at 1:06 am

    […] I’m guest posting over at Robin’s blog called Road Less Unraveled.  Take a gander and what passes for a guest post nowadays. […]

  2. Sybil Law

    October 13, 2008 at 8:22 am

    Now I’m so going to get a guest post from you. I am all about helping to enlighten people. 😀

  3. Avitable

    October 13, 2008 at 8:51 am

    Clearly the scales of karma have now been balanced.

  4. H.

    October 13, 2008 at 9:45 am

    Okay. So I have obsessive compulsive disorder. I horde notebooks and I make several lists. You’re telling me I have yet another list I have to worry about? Great. Now I won’t be able to sleep for months! :twitchy:

  5. Faiqa

    October 13, 2008 at 12:09 pm

    I’m a big believer in the “what is (the universe/God/fill in your preference) trying to teach me at this moment” also. Reflection on my own life indicates that my list has HUMILITY written in 20pt bold font at the top…

  6. Evil Genius

    October 13, 2008 at 2:01 pm

    Enlightenment, much like accidents, is accompanied by pain, my friend. I certainly hope you’ve learned your lesson.

    Now, if you’d just stop over at my place, I have a few things I’d like you to do…


  7. martymankins

    October 13, 2008 at 2:05 pm

    My servitude in life is to help people with computer problems, both at work and outside of work. I don’t mind sometimes, but it seems there’s just too many people that know stuff about computers. And you would think it would dwindle down when I switched me and many others to Macs. Nope. They just keep calling “How do I add a space between words?” “How do I use this white thing with all of these different letters and numbers on it?” So I understand the adding on top of something else… it can get tiring.

    BTW, you own me a guest post. I may call it due right before the election, if you have another servitude opening.

  8. teahouseblossom

    October 13, 2008 at 10:51 pm

    Beautiful post!

    And it must be really tough having 2 leg/foot-injured people in your household at once!

  9. Robin

    October 20, 2008 at 12:58 pm

    My husband has got the whole servitude thing down, he could give lessons. All I have to do is say I’m cranky, tired, pmsy, sick or have a “very important show to watch.” I’d never get all this blogging done without his servitude. I think it’s $9.99 a lesson. First lesson is how to hide rolling your eyes from the one you are serving.

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