Dear 18 Year Old Self

As others have done here is a letter I’ve written to my 18 year old self. I considered doing age 13 but I think that would be too hard and too depressing. Maybe that will be another post at another time.

Dear Eighteen Year Old Self:

This is yourself at thirty, pay attention because I know more than you do.


Don’t obsess about your body, enjoy the size 6 or 8 that you are now because as you get older it will be harder to stay like that. Don’t take diet pills, they really don’t do much and will forever screw up your metabolism so you won’t be able to lose weight. I know this sucks, you want a simple solution but I can tell you that 12 years later that hasn’t changed. Learn to be healthy now.

I know you think your boyfriend is the love of your life and you will think this for a few years but he’s not, the love of your life will come in time, just be patient. You will date a lot of guys that are wrong from you but it’s ok, it’s a learning experience. Your heart will break many times but don’t lose faith, I promise you will meet your soulmate and he’s not as far away as you think. He will be your best friend, he will love you unconditionally, he will think you are the most beautiful girl on the planet and will understand you like nobody ever has.

You are a sensitive girl and will always be sensitive but that’s ok, it’s not a bad thing. If you have to cry just cry, if you need to be alone it’s ok. Make sure to take care of yourself first because you should be number one in your life, everything else will work itself out. Don’t let it overwhelm you, you have an amazing life ahead of you with so many truly happy moments.

Right now you have no idea who you are or what you want to do with your life, this won’t change but you’ll come to terms with it. Nobody really knows themselves or not completely at least, it’s a day to day thing.

The future is worth it, I promise. Don’t test your life, just enjoy everyday for what it is. Some days are harder than others but there is always a good one somewhere around the corner. Your life is worth a lot and there are a lot of people you will meet that will be glad you stuck around.

Oh and one more thing…when they say not to mix beer and liquor they mean it…there is nothing fun about the result.


You In Twelve Years


  1. H.

    September 9, 2008 at 9:47 am

    Yeah, but if you could actually give your 18 year old self advice and help change things, would you? Or would you just allow yourself to make the mistakes and become who you are today?

  2. cheri

    September 9, 2008 at 10:53 am

    I’d give myself totally opposite advise regarding “love of my life”. I’d tell myself keep that one, he’s the best you’ll ever find…you may be young but if you don’t you’ll end up almost 40, alone with only memories of the one that got away and too many crappy relationships to count. How depressing huh?!

  3. themuttprincess

    September 9, 2008 at 1:03 pm

    Good advice!

    I would do that but at 18 I already was married and had a 2 year old.. Not that I would change any of it, but I certainly would give myself a heads up..


  4. Robin

    September 9, 2008 at 1:05 pm

    H – Yeah probably, except I’d tell myself to watch out for the frat boys and not take them too seriously. Oh and to be careful of the red punch.

    Cheri – Haha. I used to think my soulmate was a guy from high school but now I know better.

    TMP – Maybe a heads up on the labor or something, remind yourself to take the drugs this time :what:

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