Please Shut Me Up

I don’t need to get into this, I need to focus on seating arrangements for Kevin’s sake but I can’t help it. I had to say something, take with it what you want, because it means something to me personally and it ties in with the big step I am undergoing in my life.

When I met Erik he was married, although he had just barely begun his divorce. When I mean barely, he had only left 2 days before I met him. I know when I met him he was the love of my life but I was afraid of that, especially because of his situation.

The story is so long and complicated and sorted, 90% of it you probably wouldn’t believe if I told you. The first 3 years we were together he was married to someone else but they were divorcing. I will say though, even if I’d met him before he was separated I would have still fell madly in love with him and I have no apologies for that.

You can’t break up a relationship if the two people are really happy and really in love. I know with all my heart nobody else could ever come between Erik and I and that’s why I am marrying him. Who knows what would have happened if I’d met him before he was ready to leave, no matter how unhappy he was.

Life is too short to stay unhappy or to not follow your heart :erik:

  1. sodapop

    June 14, 2008 at 10:20 am

    Back in Vegas, I was in a situation with a friend, who happened to be married. To make a long story short, I learned not everyone follows their heart. I commend both you and Erik for doing just that. You followed your heart and it’s brought you nothing but happiness.

    For me, I followed mine. He did not follow his. I’m in Kentucky now, he’s in Vegas. No contact and no idea how he’s doing in his marriage. I don’t want to know.

    Sometimes, people are so full of guilt for something, they choose to NOT follow their heart.

    I hope I never one of those people who chooses to never follow her heart.

  2. Robin

    June 14, 2008 at 10:39 am

    :hug: I hope not too…it’s the only way any of us are going to be happy. I’m sorry it didn’t work.

  3. Amanda

    June 14, 2008 at 11:40 am

    I really believe that happy couples can’t be broken up by an outside person. The only reason someone cheats is unhappiness or boredom, neither of which can the “3rd party” be blamed

  4. Tara

    June 14, 2008 at 12:09 pm

    The third reason people cheat is immaturity. Let’s not forget that classic. Talk about a problem? Why, when they can cheat instead? Selfish. And immature.

  5. Jen

    June 14, 2008 at 3:08 pm

    “Life is too short to stay unhappy or to not follow your heart.”

    That’s the smartest thing I’ve heard all day!

  6. Robin

    June 14, 2008 at 4:50 pm

    Amanda – Exactly!

    Tara – That is true but if they were happy to begin with, really happy, they wouldn’t need to do that at all.

    Jen – I have something intelligent to say once and a while.

  7. Tara

    June 14, 2008 at 11:00 pm

    Then have the decency and maturity to stand up and say “I’m not happy. I want out.” Not, “let me go screw someone else because you might get mad and I might change my mind and I’m a coward.”

  8. H.

    June 15, 2008 at 1:03 am

    No, you didn’t need to say it because it’s your life and if you’re truly happy, you don’t have to justify it to anyone. And what if you didn’t meet and he went back out of guilt or fear and was totally miserable right now?

    “You can’t break up a relationship if the two people are really happy and really in love.” – So true!

  9. whall

    June 15, 2008 at 1:56 am

    I’m glad you’re having that feeling – it is like no other.

  10. Turnbaby

    June 15, 2008 at 5:19 am

    “”Sometimes, people are so full of guilt for something, they choose to NOT follow their heart.””

    This is so true.

    Thank you for sharing this –I know you all will have a great day and life. I wish you the best.

  11. Tori

    June 15, 2008 at 4:57 pm

    wow… with all the claims you’ve made about being a mess this week, you’re thinking very clearly today… so good to hear! at least you know you’re on the road to happily every after….

  12. Robin

    June 15, 2008 at 5:12 pm

    Tara – I couldn’t agree more, I don’t condone cheating at all. I don’t mean to hurt your feelings hon, I’m sorry. Every situation is different, I only know shit from my own life.

    H – That’s why I believe in fate, we met each other at just the right time.

    Whall – Me too!

    Turnbaby – Just because I’m a bride doesn’t mean my feelings and opinions have been shut off. If only, it might be easier 😀

    Tori – :lmao: It’s just that my brain doesn’t turn off and this is something I feel very strongly about.

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    July 3, 2008 at 10:26 am

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