A faux pas is a violation of accepted, although unwritten, social rules. Faux pas vary widely from culture to culture and what is considered good manners in one culture can be considered a faux pas in another.
First I have to say that it took me a good 20 minutes to figure out how to spell this, damn French words are always screwing me up :annoyed:
How important is being socially acceptable? Why does there have to be expectations about how to act in society? Why can’t we just be ourselves and do things our way?
[private]A day or two before Thanksgiving Erik told his mother he would be at my parent’s house for the day and made sure to wish her a happy Thanksgiving before hanging up the phone. Of course, on the day of Thanksgiving she called and called and called furious he wasn’t picking up the phone. She was visiting her brother and Erik (who hates the phone even more than I do I think) did not want to speak to every single member of the household.
Of course MIL left angry voicemails for him about how she didn’t know where he was and reminding him how it was Thanksgiving. I swear, the way she responds to things like that you would think the world was imploding at that moment. Erik knew within a day or two she’d throw a shit fit and he was prepared to give it back as well.
So he gets the call and she’s going on and on about what a “faux pas” it was for him not to speak to his mother on Thanksgiving. All about how inappropriate and/or rude it was. She explained how bad it made him look. Why does she care so much about what other people think? And isn’t Thanksgiving just about being thankful and spending time with people you love? When did guilt become a part of it?
He of course told her off right back, as it’s the only way to deal with her. He informed her that he was spending time with my family and that he didn’t want to speak to every member of her family that day. I’m so proud he didn’t bullshit as he often does, he just gave it to her straight.
I’m sure she’s still pissy about it all as that’s what she does. She holds onto this shit longer than she holds onto all the damn “heirlooms” in her house.[/private]
What’s the moral of this story? Stop obsessing about what is right by society standards and just let everyone be themselves!! :whosenext: