All Shapes and Sizes
After this post today I again got thinking about bullies as it’s been something I’ve come in contact with one too many times in my life. I’ve come across all different kinds bullying and rarely is the bully willing to pull their head out of their ass long enough to even recognize what they are really doing. It’s always all about them.
I’ve seen a friend walk on eggshells around a boyfriend afraid of what might set him off but still confused about leaving him.
I’ve witnessed a grown woman/mother be afraid to do anything because she thinks her husband will demean her for her choice and feel she can never do anything right. I’ve seen her run away and hide once because she hid something from him out of fear of his reaction.
I’ve seen a friend fall to pieces when she found out her aunt died by the hands of her boyfriend during an abusive rage.
I’ve seen a man be afraid to speak up or defend himself because for years his wife beat him down so far he didn’t know how to and be too afraid to fight for his own rights assuming she would always win. I’ve seen that same man takes years to find himself again and his strength but in the process lose everything else having to work to get it all back again.
I myself have been taunted, harrassed, beaten down emotionally to the point where I’ve often felt it was my own fault.
I know often we find this kind of information out second or third handed, it’s hard to really know what is going on unless you were there when it happened. If you can honestly tell me you weren’t belittled, threatened or physically harmed at all I will apologize for assuming otherwise. If you can honestly tell me you weren’t afraid for your safety then I am sorry but only then.
I know how quickly things can be taken out of context, it’s happened to me before. At the same time, I know how someone whose been abused also makes excuses.