Why Not Elope?

I eloped once. I’m not sure if it counts as eloping as I was unconscious in the back seat and he drove me to Tennessee where we didn’t need a blood test.

Don’t forget about gifts. That’s a big con to eloping. No presents.

You know what they say – If your relationship can survive planning a wedding, you’re all set!

We actually said to ourselves that if we could survive law school and planning our wedding, we could survive anything.

Can I just cut and paste this post and add it to my blog?:)

So should I take it that you didn’t book the place we talked about (I haven’t scrolled down to old posts yet)

Mist – I’d love to know more :eyebrow:

Avi – Well, I was trying to not sound like a spoiled brat :unsure:

Friglet – Hell, if you can survive his 3 year long divorce then you can survive anything…wedding/marriage will be EASY.

Avi – Note above comment.

Janet – We were so close…then my dad started getting difficult…we’re waiting now.

No way! Wedding are all about the gifts. You should spend just enough so that people will come and give you enough gifts that will be more than what you paid.

But I’m not paying for the wedding

No? Even better! You’ll make out like a bandit!

Great! I can finally get that sex change operation :clap:

Sweet! Seems like all the cool kids are getting them these days.

I’ve always hated weddings. Big ol’ hoopla, wasted money, endless stress, all for one day? Is that even worth it? If that’s the only thing that can bring a family together, then who needs ‘em? And who needs 12 different sets of dishes and silver platters? Just elope and save yourself all the trouble, including the returning of useless gifts to the store.

Girl, you have no idea how much I identify.
I debated between just going away somewhere and inviting a few close people along … or even going downtown to the JP. At one time, I think I considered Vegas. LOL.
I ended up striking the right balance between casual and elegant … and loved it all.
And I still got to wear the dress! Heh.
There’s a video somewhere on my site but I’m lazy right now. I’ll try to dig it up for you.

The only piece of advice I can give is do it all for YOU. Nobody else. Please yourself … it’s your day.

Both of my marriages we eloped…. not sure i would ever be ready for a big wedding and spend lots of $$$ on it

Skip the wedding, elope and then throw a giant-assed party. You can still wear your dress and get gifts then. The ceremony part was the most expensive for me and it was over in like 20 minutes or less. The party was where it was at, yo.

KG, the ceremony was the most expensive? That was the cheapest part for us.

Yeah, the site fees and the musical people’s fees and all that were our biggest expense. The yacht club we got for free since we’re members. The food and drinks were at cost because we’re members. The cake was from Safeway (under $200) and the DJ was a friend from work who did DJing on the side. The yacht club had all the place settings, silverware, glasses, chairs, tables, tablecloths, candles, etc. already so we didn’t have to rent anything.

Even though we’re not religious, we did it in a church. Cost us $200. That’s it. The musician played for free, we didn’t waste money on flowers that nobody would remember, and we had an 8-minute ceremony.

Our church was a lot more. And the preacher guy’s fees. I didn’t have flowers at the front. Fuck that. I wasn’t paying for those. The church did have a “coordinator” that I had to pay a fee to as well. I was like, WTF? That is so stupid. She isn’t doing anything FOR me. All the musicians and everything HAD to be church approved. The wedding part was lame. I totally wouldn’t do the ceremony again if I were to get married.

If this place works out we will have the ceremony ON-SITE so it doesn’t get any easier about that. It’s not the ceremony that is the problem, it’s planning a big party with my parents.

Yeah, that must be hard. Since we paid for our own, my parents were invited, and that was about it.

We could scratch it all and just do it in our backyard but that would mean a lot of the people from OOT probably wouldn’t be there…I like the idea of having the chance to have all these people come from all over the country.

Yeah, it’s nice to see people you haven’t seen in a while, and since it’s your wedding, you only have to talk to them for a few minutes and you can move on. It’s perfect, really.

Avitable – Are you trying to win the contest? I’m actually looking forward to the rehearsal dinner a lot since all the people IN the wedding are who I’m most excited to see.

I didn’t think the contest started until April 1st? I didn’t even realize that I was your second highest commenter!

Nope, the first winner post will be posted on April 2nd (since rarely people read blogs on Sundays).

There is a contest? Wait. I love contests. Hehe

Yeah, good point.

It’s almost over though:

http://www.roadlessunraveled.com/2007/03/13/comment-contest/

for this month at least.

Interesting. I’m not going to be cheap, though.

I don’t know…I heard you were pretty cheap.

Only when it comes to sex.

My parents offered me the money they were spending on the wedding as a down payment for a house. I wanted a party! Now I’m divorced, and I’ve got no house.

Not quite sure where that leaves me. :doh:

I am just going to say there will be no eloping unless Leo and I are invited! :thumbsup: then it would be ok!

Avi – I heard you offer discounts too.

Stephanie – If they offered the money I’d probably elope but then again we already really have everything we need including a house.

Gemini – Ok ok…ok

Yeah. Only if you have a coupon book, though!

:thumbsup:

Is there double coupon day?

Comes with free reacharound.

Anything prohibited?

Fisting.

Ok…noted.

Or felching.

We didn’t actually elope, but we pretty much just invited our parents to it, and we had it at our house with a JP. We have never regretted it.

Go ahead and have the big one this time. You’ll go the cheaper route with the second and third weddings, trust me