One of the first things we did when we sat down with my parents after we got engaged was discuss The Grandmother issue.  The issue was, do we invite her or not.  Might sound cruel but if you knew her you’d understand.

We decided that even though we feel guilty not even telling her about the engagement because we all know she’ll ruin the day.  Period.  She will A. try to get all the attention on her B. complain about everything and C. will be a total PITA.  So we aren’t even telling her and we really feel this is the only way to go.

My dad keeps calling the wedding “your function” and that’s just weird.  It’s like he can’t deal with it being an actual wedding or admitting to it.  Is it weird he had no say in his mother (The Grandmother) coming to the wedding?  He doesn’t care.

Still waiting to hear about the Maine house but it isn’t looking very good.  Apparently they don’t tend to allow functions there but my dad tends to get what he wants so it’s still up in the air.  Think good thoughts everyone!

  1. Krayzee Chickadee

    March 14, 2007 at 7:22 am

    I think it was the right decision not to tell her. From what I have heard over the years….. it would ruin your day. Sad to say… but true.

  2. Maureen

    March 14, 2007 at 9:04 am

    How is this going to be kept secret from her, though? And, once she finds out, she’ll *really* ruin your day.

    I know how hateful & horrible she is, though. Don’t know if there’s any good solution at all.

    Hey, maybe you could tell her about it, but, then, arrange for her to ‘win’ an all-expense paid cruise that can only be taken over the wedding weekend 😉

  3. Robin

    March 14, 2007 at 9:37 am

    KC – It’s just how it is.

    Maureen – Nobody talks to her and she’s in a home, we’re probably safe.

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