Family Guilt

We ended up not going to visit FIL in the hospital because he really didn’t want us to come. He’s in a lot of pain and often really drugged up. Some of the family has been pressuring us to go despite him not wanting visitors but I know what it’s like to be in the hospital like that and when you are in that state you just want to be left alone.

I wish the family would stop pressuring us to do this or that…whatever they think is the right thing to do. We are adults and can make decisions on our own. If you don’t like them, it’s fine, but we don’t tell you what you should do.

Hell, my mom stopped suggesting me to visit my grandmother because she knows how much I don’t want to do it. She would never guilt me into doing something because she knows I can make my own decisions.

So we’re hoping to visit FIL when he’s feeling a little better and probably when he’s back home. We’re just not going to play into these games anymore.

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Note: I wasn’t directing this at anyone in particular BUT as I should have noted when we talked…when you keep “suggesting” we visit and how “nice” it would be if we did that it can come across as being pushy.  I’m glad you got to visit him several times and we’ll definitely make it up to him.

  1. DeniseTN

    December 17, 2006 at 8:46 am

    They should all be honoring his wishes to be left alone. I hate that shit.

  2. Krayzee Chickadee

    December 17, 2006 at 9:02 am

    Hell, I wouldn’t go visit your grandmother even if I got paid a kazillion dollars. Sorry, but she is kinda scary.
    You should visit FIL when he’s ready.

  3. Robin

    December 17, 2006 at 9:04 am

    Denise – Exactly.

    KC – Anyone who knows of her wants nothing to do with her. Yes, that’s precisely our plan.

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