Why I Started Blogging

Before blogging I was more immersed in a forum with women whom I mostly related to and enjoyed getting to know. I went to the forum initially for support and ended up making, at the time, really wonderful friends.

I think a big problem with forums is people tend to get too immersed in each others personal lives and it’s so easy to cross the line when you aren’t face to face. It’s so much easy to judge another person or condemn their choices when you are safe from actually confrontation.

With forums it is also so easy to misunderstand or misinterpret what someone says and when there are dozens of others joining in a conversation before you know it everything gets blown out of proportion. Everyone has their own emotional issues and personal opinions. Support can get clouded and destructive that way.

So when things for me got destructive I decided to use blogging to get out some of my feelings, a place that was my own turf and I felt I had a little more control over the possible backlash. Unfortunately many of the women who had personal issues with me decided to bring stuff from my blog to the forum.

Anyway, it was childish and I realized at that point I needed to walk away and I needed to feel like I could be myself. It took a while to separate my blog life from the forum life but I found blogging was much more suited to me.

With my blog I can develop this personal space just for my words, thoughts and opinions. If I feel someone is being unfairly judgmental I can remove them from my world easily but unless it’s a personal attack I usually welcome all kinds of comments, even the ones that disagree.

I think a lot of them thought I preferred blogging because I could avoid confrontation and kind of hide but I think it is quite the opposite. I’m more myself on my blog than I’ve ever been on a forum because it’s my home and that’s where I think we all feel the most comfortable.


  • http://hterry.com blueyes

    well, its your blog and so it is only natural that it be an extension of you and not others. you are the one writing it.

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    Blueyes – True. I was just thinking back to the days when I was on forums and not blogging and how I came to blogging instead. I think certain people like to stay in big groups while others like to do it alone. I like selectively communicating with people without getting too deep into anything.

  • http://feastofcrumbs.com/blog/ Joefish

    I started blogging for just about the dumbest reason imaginable; I had a fun title and no other place to use it.

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    Joefish – That’s a better reason than most.

  • http://www.illusivelife.com Susan

    I started back when bloggin was journaling, and while I much prefer journaling to bloggin…I occasionally blog once in awhile.

    Whatever your reason for bloggin, I am glad you are here, I enjoy your wit and wisdom.

  • http://bloggochicago.com Barb

    I have “print” journals that date back to December 1991! I can’t remember how or why I started blogging (probably because of the ECT), but it’s an extention of those journals. I still have a paper journal but rarely write in it. My life is pretty much an open book or, er, blog.

    When I first started blogging, I didn’t discuss being bipolar. I made the decision to do that as my small part of fighting the stigma against mental illness and so that other people out there know they aren’t alone and that it can happen to anyone.

  • http://pointless-drivel.com Mr. Fabulous

    I can totally understand that. Plus we like you just the way you are :willy_nilly:

  • http://www.roadlessunraveled.com Robin

    You are all awesome and THANKS Mr. Fabulous!


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