Before blogging I was more immersed in a forum with women whom I mostly related to and enjoyed getting to know. I went to the forum initially for support and ended up making, at the time, really wonderful friends.
I think a big problem with forums is people tend to get too immersed in each others personal lives and itÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s so easy to cross the line when you arenÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t face to face. ItÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s so much easy to judge another person or condemn their choices when you are safe from actually confrontation.
With forums it is also so easy to misunderstand or misinterpret what someone says and when there are dozens of others joining in a conversation before you know it everything gets blown out of proportion. Everyone has their own emotional issues and personal opinions. Support can get clouded and destructive that way.
So when things for me got destructive I decided to use blogging to get out some of my feelings, a place that was my own turf and I felt I had a little more control over the possible backlash. Unfortunately many of the women who had personal issues with me decided to bring stuff from my blog to the forum.
Anyway, it was childish and I realized at that point I needed to walk away and I needed to feel like I could be myself. It took a while to separate my blog life from the forum life but I found blogging was much more suited to me.
With my blog I can develop this personal space just for my words, thoughts and opinions. If I feel someone is being unfairly judgmental I can remove them from my world easily but unless itÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s a personal attack I usually welcome all kinds of comments, even the ones that disagree.
I think a lot of them thought I preferred blogging because I could avoid confrontation and kind of hide but I think it is quite the opposite. IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢m more myself on my blog than IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢ve ever been on a forum because itÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s my home and thatÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s where I think we all feel the most comfortable.