Before Erik I had never lived with a boy before other than a co-ed dorm but that is quite different. I remember when the idea of sleeping next to a guy seemed like the most wonderful thing in the world. The first time I ever even slept next to a guy I didnÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t sleep because I was so nervous, that was a very long 8 hours.
IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢m not sure living with Erik though is a true experience of living with a guy because most things guys are supposed to do he doesnÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t and the ones he does I also do. (pull)Sometimes I think I am more of a guy than he is and heÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s more of a woman than I am(/pull). At the very least I think weÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢re a nice mixture of both genders and maybe a tad confusing to other people.
First I need to note that Erik has only left the toilet seat up once ever and I think he was probably just distracted when it happened. IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢ve heard this is annoyance to most women who live with men but itÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s something IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢ve never really experienced.
I also donÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t have any issues when it comes to the tv other than him always talking to me when IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢m engrossed in a show (which is almost all the time). I donÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t have to worry about a sports game being on because he doesnÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t watch any sports. He doesnÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t hog the remote either; he knows the remote belongs to me and I plan to put that in the marriage agreement.
He also doesnÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢t leave his clothes everywhere but I do and it drives him crazy. Actually IÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢m a lot messier than he is although heÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã¢â€žÂ¢s not quite a neat freak either.
For me, living with a guy has helped me understand myself better and see the world a little differently too. It’s not always easy sharing a life with someone (including bills, chores and all of life’s unexpected problems) but in doing so I think is an important step we all take.
Many think getting married and having children are the big steps in life (and they are big steps). So far, for me, the most important decision I’ve ever made was to move in with Erik and it’s also the best decision I’ve ever made. Every single day I learn something new and feel more comfortable in the place where I luckily ended up.