Coming To An End

I talk about friendships a lot because my friends were always the ones I went to when I needed a shoulder to cry on or someone to share good news with. I guess I just never really had that with my family, or not in the way I needed.

I’ve watched friendships fall by the wayside my whole life. Someone you once considered nearly family eventually becomes a stranger. It’s not a fun part of life but it’s the way it is.

I’ve been losing tough with a friend who was once incredibly close to me and I’ve been trying to hold onto it for a while. As I see it we’ve just gone such different directions and I think it’s too hard to try to be something we aren’t.

I guess it’s just that she wants to be one kind of friend where I want to be another, does that make sense?

I’m just trying to let it fade out, since I have no real problems with her anymore, I just want to let it go.

I made her a scrapbook as a wedding present and I’ve been waiting months to be able to give it to her but she just hasn’t had the time. I ended up giving it to a friend to give to her when she saw her recently and to know surprise I haven’t heard a single word about it.

That hurt a lot and I think that was the last straw for me :kickcan:

  1. Leanne

    September 17, 2006 at 2:22 pm

    I can so relate to that. I had a friend tell me once that she was a better friend to me than I was to her – talk about keeping score and making someone feel like a failure. She even wanted to continue our friendship after that like nothing had happened, like she didn’t pierce our friendship with the biggest dagger with that choice of words. “I love you like a sister” she said to me – right after she told me that. Seriously.

    To this day, she’d tell you that it was all my fault. I think fault lies between two people that just don’t jive anymore – and it happens, and it’s a sad part of life. Better to just let it fall away than say something permanently damaging – because then after time, if you are both in the same place again, your friendship has a chance of rekindling.

  2. Robin

    September 17, 2006 at 3:11 pm

    Leanne – If I said anything to her it would blow up in my face and better not burn any bridges as I see it. I just don’t see any point in trying and caring so much when she doesn’t bother at all. I blame myself partially, I try to hard sometimes and get hurt I get no response from her. We’ve been drifting apart for so many years and it’s ok.

  3. heather(anne)

    September 19, 2006 at 5:58 am

    I’m sorry, I know exactly how you feel. Right now I don’t have any best girlfriends and I look back to past girlfriends and I miss having that. I miss having someone to call when I need to talk or I have some news or I just need a laugh. It sucks. I guess that’s why I blog.

  4. Robin

    September 19, 2006 at 7:44 am

    Heather – I’m sure a lot of us blog because we’re mising something :hug:

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