When I read this post I knew I had to comment on this for myself because this is a strong opinion I have.
First off I want to mention that for the first time ever I watched the show Super Nanny this past weekend and I couldn’t believe a. the parents let the kids litterally control the household and b. the parents had no relationship anymore.
Laura S notes that many childfree women choose not to have children because they are happy with their current relationship and don’t need anything else. I’m not saying all couples who have children are trying to “fix” their relationship, I just mean that some people just don’t want to change something that works so well as it is.
She notes that the freedom you have in a relationship without kids and I think that really hit the nail on the head. I love spending lazy weekends with Erik doing nothing or just spending the whole day out doing whatever we want. I love that we can be intimate whenever we want and watch anything we want.
I love the freedom and I love my relationship deeply. I’ve seen so many relationships dissolve after having children and while I think Erik and I are strong enough to make anything work I don’t know if the sacrifice is worth it to me.