Keeping My Options Open

I posted about Fence Sitting on the Purple Women TM in regards to my status as childfree. There are two things I’ve found difficult to discuss with some of the more hardcore childfree-ers: step-parenting and fence sitting. Of course, I fit in both of those categories.

To make things clear, I just happen to not be 100% sure about anything and choose to keep my options open. Right now I am childfree and plan to stay that way but I know I could change my mind down the road.

Every once and a while I imagine having a child (no way more than one) and I think it’s something I would love. Something inside of me is intrigued by the whole thing and I try to imagine a little baby in my arms that is part me and part Erik. Everything outside of that just scares me to my core but that one image keeps me unsure at this moment.

I like the idea of the childfree status because I’m glad the other option to having kids has a name and a real meaning to it. I think it’s a beautiful thing we all want to live our lives the way it feels right to us, it’s how it should be :thumbsup:

  1. JLynn

    August 25, 2006 at 1:23 pm

    Being child-free definately has it’s advantages. Sleep in on the weekends, stay up as late as you want, watch whatever you want and be able to pick up and go at a moments notice. Hubby and I waited 6 years before even trying to conceive our daughter.

    Now that we have her, I wouldn’t go back to being child free if I was offerred me all the money in the world! :heartbeat:

    It is a beautiful thing to live your life the way you want to live it, and no one should ever tell you any different!

  2. Robin

    August 25, 2006 at 1:25 pm

    JLynn – Thanks sweetie! :hug: We all gotta go the path that works for us and hopefully it works out in the end.

  3. Maureen

    August 25, 2006 at 7:32 pm

    And, I think it’s great to be a fence-sitter & be comfortable with it.

    What a wonderful phrase that is, actually, “fencesitter”. It evokes for me such a thoughtful image, not a negative one or a fretful one at all. In my mind, it brings an image of a young girl at camp, early in the morning, sitting on a fence that separates the horses and the lake. Just watching both, thinking about which she would prefer to spend her day doing. Both are great & the possibilities are exhilarating. No matter which side you decide to hop down on, I know you’re going to have a great time and that you truly appreciate the merits of both.


  4. Robin

    August 26, 2006 at 8:19 am

    Maureen – Awww, thanks girl :hug: What a great way to describe it.

  5. Gary

    August 26, 2006 at 11:26 am

    Like most things, this has it plusses and minuses. That’s what makes life so complicated. There are so many decisions. Once someone has a child, they can’t exactly change their mind.

    I hope you are having a lovely late summer weekend.

  6. Miss Ann

    August 26, 2006 at 11:50 am

    the militant child-free people are fanatics. anything people can feel strongly about, always brings out the wingnuts.

    I despise fanatics.

  7. Robin

    August 26, 2006 at 12:03 pm

    Gary – So true and yes I am.

    Miss Ann – I hope you don’t consider me in that category, not that I really can be. I think the only thing I’m somehwat a fanatic about is Kevin Spacey :giggle:

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