Another chapter closed
I just found out that this friend of mine from college who I found out is engaged, the reason none of us hear from her at all anymore is because she doesnÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢t want to communicate with anyone if they question her life choices. Now I understand why I never hear from her and why she never responds to my emails. Mind you IÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢ve actually never EVER questioned her life choices but encouraged her to do more.
Last time I saw her I suggested that since she was currently single and had no real ties (and had the money) to maybe travel abroad, that I thought it would make a real difference in her life. If I were in her position it is something I would love to do and still hope to travel in the future but right now just isnÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢t possible. Instead she chose to get engaged to a guy with a criminal record, MAJOR money problems and several children with different women that he takes no responsibility for (she had told me his mother pays his child support).
So at this point IÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢m really cutting off ties with her because I simply cannot deal with that. If she wants to live in complete denial that is fine with me but I canÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢t be a part of it. I will always adore her and worry about her. She has a lot of problems that I know she has a really hard time addressing or dealing with and I hope someday she finds out what really makes her happy.
IÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢m sad because she was at one point a long time ago such a dear friend and I will always be there for her if she needs me but I just cannot sit in the side lines anymore. Maybe she knows exactly what sheÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢s doing and will end up being really happy. I really hope thatÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢s the case, I hope IÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢m completely wrong. In the end though, as IÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢ve said many times, a friendship is a two way streetÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â¦anything less really isnÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢t a friendship at all.
Oh and if anyone knows what itÃƒÆ’Ã‚Â¢ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚Â¬ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¾Ã‚Â¢s like for people to question their life choices I certainly do, I would never do that to anyone I cared about.