Being “out of the loop”

That was a big surprise for me when I joined the work world: that the cliques from high school/college continued. I have no niche where I am now. I’ll be very happy to get out and go it on my own.

That’s good Queen

Funny, I often feel apart at work as well due to that. My colleagues aren’t baby-pushers, that is, but most of them have kids (one of them already had 3 kids before the age of 28), so they don’t really envision well that someone may not want children not only “at the moment”, but also “forever”. (And yes, I’m not afraid of saying that. Saying “I want children” is, after all, just as much of a definitive statement, and nobody ever seems to find this surprising or a very important decision, so…)

As for the cliques, I only have one word to say: GAH!

No, really, you’d think you’d be free of this and entering an “adult” world, but our conceptions of adulthood must differ, I guess.

Thanks for commenting Kery as always.

I’m not sure if they’ve realized how anti-children I am yet but at this point I avoid most of those conversations because I say the wrong things.

I also found marriage talks are weird too sometimes. Once a co-worker said to me “wait til you get married…you’ll then be a maid” which was funny since my boyfriend picks up after me much more than the other way around. He’s always complaining of how messy I can be. I really don’t try to stick out…it just happens.

Are we long-lost twins or something? That’s exactly me! (Both the children and maid part.)

My basis principle anyway is that I clean the way I’d do it if I were living alone: enough for the house not to be dirty and unhealthy. Anyone who wants better than this and shiny windows 24/7 can clear themselves, including my boyfriend (who fortunately doesn’t care much about the prints our dog has left on the windows with his nose). No kidding, I seriously don’t care if there’s a cobweb in a corner of a room. At least the spider will eat the flies. I like this deal.

I think we must be. You sound just like me. I wouldn’t say I’m a total slob but I’m not 24/7 neat. I’ll leave clothes here and there sometimes but I’ll usually put a used plate in the sink. I’ll leave a book on the floor of the bathroom but I’ll put a dirty towel in the hamper. Luckily my bf doesn’t really care that much and if he does he can always clean as you said.

What’s nice is we finally have a big enough apartment that I don’t feel like we live in a disaster…before we had no room for anything so it always looked messy. Now I can leave most of the mess to the bedroom.

Yeah, used plates go in the sink and get cleaned pretty fast. I learnt my lesson years ago. Unclean plates staying for days on a table can give nasty results.

The mess here lives in my “office”. The rest of the house, I don’t bring my stuff in, save for a book at times, yet I don’t start using other rooms for comp or writing activities, for instance, in fear of seeing the mess spread. Messy outside, less messy in my mind, perhaps? (Not convinced about that, but hey, that’s how the saying goes…)

Luckily my bf does the dishes.