PBS Declares War on Dads

I will let this article speak for itself

The 4-year-old boy is jumping up and down with joy.

“Daddy! Daddy!”

Dad gets out of the car.

“Daddy’s here! Daddy’s here!”

The boy is behind a locked screen door. He tries to open it.

“Daddy’s here! Mommy, look, daddy’s here!”

Dad knows he shouldn’t open the door. He waits for his ex-wife to open the door. She doesn’t do it.

“This is my visitation time,” Dad says, waving a court document.

Mom still won’t open the door.

The boy jumps up and down, saying, “Daddy, Daddy.” He yanks on the screen door handle but still can’t get it open.

Dad looks at his little boy. He pauses, takes a deep breath, and walks back to his car.

The little boy doesn’t understand. Why won’t Daddy come? Why is Daddy walking away from him?

The little boy disappears inside the house.

Dad calls the police. When the officers arrive he shows them his court documents. The officers go inside to investigate. They come out a few minutes later.

“Your son says he doesn’t want to see you,” the officer says. “There’s nothing I can do. You’ll have to deal with it in the court. I can’t make him go with you if he doesn’t want to.”

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10 Comments

  1. Mergrl

    October 25, 2005 at 12:57 pm

    you know how that crap alternatingly pisses me off and breaks my heart. I just don’t understand how someone can do that to another person.
    (((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))

  2. Robin

    October 25, 2005 at 1:05 pm

    Thanks for the comment…I don’t either.

  3. Maureen

    October 25, 2005 at 1:33 pm

    I’ve been reading about PAS for so many years, now. Ever since I married my husband & realized how hard his ex-wife was working to try to shut him out of his daughter’s life. I used to be indignant & outraged. I’ve become a bit jaded & disillusioned by the court system. But, the one thing that I’ve learned is that, at least in our case, if the parent that’s being alienated has a good bond with their child and just concentrates on keeping that loving, trusting, honest connection, the two of them can weather the PAS together & come out the other side with a strong relationship once the child is grown.

    My husband & I make every effort to give my stepdaughter the strength she needs to let her mother’s hate of her father roll off of her back. By never playing the game back, we give her the confidence of knowing that at least one of her parents respects her relationship with both – that it’s OK for her to have a loving relationship with both parents and that her dad (in our case) understands that, for her own survival & sanity, she has to live with and, sometimes appear to be complicit with, her mother as she makes claims that my stepdaughter doesn’t love her father (or is afraid of him or embarrassed by him or is stalking them, etc…).

    It is our own little secret, stepdaughter, husband & I. We can all be standing there, listening to his ex say how awful my husband is and saying that my stepdaughter agrees with her. We just kind of wait it out until she goes away. Then, once she’s gone, we give her a little hug. Say “I don’t know where that came from – sounds like you’re mom’s pretty confused and pretty angry about something. Is she having a bad day?” Then, SD will shrug her shoulders or roll her eyes & we’ll get on with our day, together.

    My stepdaughter came out of it all a very strong person. I only hope it’s the same for all of the kids who have to go through this.

    And, I hope & pray, that some day, the courts will be able to see all of this more clearly and earlier on in the children’s lives, before the damage can be done to them – unnecessary damage done by spiteful, sad people, that can be carried with them for the rest of their lives.

  4. Robin

    October 25, 2005 at 1:37 pm

    Thanks Maureen for that well thought response. I swear you should write a book on both parenting and being a step-parent. You obviously see the child’s well-being as the most important and really work hard to do the best by the child…not many parents can say that. You truly amaze me in how patient and caring of a person you are.

  5. babs

    October 25, 2005 at 1:59 pm

    Wow.. Heartbreaking.. Thanks for posting that Robin..

    and Maureen… You’ve been told before that you should write a book.. always positive and clear in your intent..

    To benefit the child..

  6. Robin

    October 25, 2005 at 2:01 pm

    I just felt I had to post this article. I couldn’t believe it…actually I could which was what was so sad I guess.

  7. Maureen

    October 25, 2005 at 2:07 pm

    Oh 🙁 I clicked on the ‘read an expanded version of this article’ link & it brought me to here: http://www.glennsacks.com/pbs_declares_war_ev.htm

    You’ve got to read that one, Robin 🙁

  8. Robin

    October 25, 2005 at 2:13 pm

    Wow. I updated the link.

  9. Mark Sanburg

    October 26, 2005 at 4:21 am

    Hi,

    Most of you have absolutely no idea of the daily injustice and brutality that eminate from the family court system.
    This article is just a small glimpse of what can happen. Fortunately most of you will never know

  10. E

    October 26, 2005 at 4:13 pm

    All I can do about this is to hold out and be PATIENT. It’s so hard. It’s been almost three years. We cry out for each other through layers of laws and hateful stormy days.
    I know it will end soon. I will NEVER give up on my daughter. NEVER.
    She deserves all that life has to offer. I am a child of divorce, and I am better for it.
    If someone is suffering, throw yourself against what they suffer from. I WILL be there for my daughter until one of us dies.
    E

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