Change can be good

This idea came from here

Something disasterous happens in your life and you think “why did this have to happen to me?” or maybe even “my life is over.” Maybe a relationship ends or you lose your job or whatever. You feel helpless and that nothing good could possibly come from this.

A good example I think is when I moved to Oklahoma. One day I decided I had enough of New England and I was in a rut so I up and moved to Tulsa where I have a lot of family. Mostly everyone was very supportive of my decision and even my bestbud did the long drive with me. I tried to settle in and tried to find a job. I never felt comfortable. In fact I felt unbelievably homesick and so scared that I thought I’d ruined my entire life. I tried so hard to make Tulsa home but everyday I felt more and more alone.

Then my bestbud called me one day and told me she was engaged. She’d already asked me previously to be in her wedding and I was so excited. I couldn’t believe I was going to miss out on all the planning and everything. I couldn’t believe I’d moved all the way to Tulsa and I was away from everyone I loved.

I realized I had to move back…I just had to. I was drowning in Tulsa and if I didn’t go home soon I’d completely fall apart. I was worried nobody would accept me back…that they’d think I was a failure but luckily everyone welcomed me home with open arms.

At the time moving to Tulsa seemed like the worst decision ever and that I’d messed up my whole life. Now I’m glad I went. I got to spend a lot of time with family I hardly ever get to see and got to see what it was like living in a very different part of the country than I was used to. I came home and only months later fell in love with the man of my dreams and since he was going to be my bestbud’s brother-in-law we were both in the wedding.

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.
Gail Sheehy

  1. Maureen

    September 13, 2005 at 2:08 pm

    As the years go by, and I get more perspective, I realize how true this is. Every thing that happens in your life leads to the next series of events. From every happy moment in your life, you can look back on the trying times that lead you there and see that, without that bad stuff, you wouldn’t be where you are now.

    It does make it easier to get through the hard times.

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